There are two mental states that must be fulfilled before a person will willingly quit smoking. These essentials are called “Desire,” and “Decision.”
DESIRE: A want, crave or a wish for
DECISION: Making up of one’s mind / a verdict or judgment
In order to stop smoking, you must have a DESIRE to stop. You probably want to stop smoking, at least some part of you does, or you wouldn’t be reading this article.
In addition, in order to stop smoking, you have to DECIDE to give up the habit. Since you haven’t kicked the smoking habit, it simply means that you have not DECIDED to stop yet.
So what you need is to feel a strong motivation to make a “DECISION” to stop.
MOTIVATION, we all want to have it. The source of each of our motivations is what we believe. Think about it, if you did not think it was true that you could be injured if you walked in front of moving traffic, you would not experience motivation to be vigilant. If you did not believe that the gnawing feeling in your stomach meant that you were hungry, you would not feel motivated to eat.
When it comes to breaking the smoking addiction, people who have a smoking habit need to feel a tremendous amount of motivation to make the DECISION to quit. Motivation is based on the thoughts that we believe. So you will need to DECIDE what thoughts would motivate you if you believed them. Because when you feel a great deal of motivation, you will stop smoking.
Thanks to NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and hypnosis for motivation, it is much easier to learn how to believe these new ideas than you probably think. However, you do not believe the ideas that will motivate you to stop smoking at this point, or you would have already given up cigarettes.
For the purpose of this discussion, we need to define a few words.
DOUBT: Uncertain/distrustful/dubious – “maybe it’s this way, and maybe it is not.”
BELIEF: Trust/faith/tenet – A state of mind free of all doubt. In other words, belief means, “this is the way that it is.”
HIGHLY VALUED CRITERIA: What is most important to you, as an soul.
When you believe that if you continue to smoke cigarettes your highly valued criterion is jeopardized, you will feel the motivation that you need to stop smoking. We call this is a negative motivator, because it is a belief that motivates you by giving you dire feelings. Negative motivators are great for getting you to make decisions and changes in your life.
When you believe that if you do stop, your highly valued criteria will become enhanced, then you will also feel the motivation that you require to stop smoking. This is a positive motivator, because it motivates you by promising good feelings if you stop.
The first task is for you to DECIDE what the most vital aspects of your life happen to be. Your most highly valued criteria are usually intangibles. For example: Money would not be highly valued criteria, but the freedom, fun, or security that money can buy would be. Write your list of highly valued criteria down on a piece of paper.
Next you need to DECIDE what you need to believe to feel motivated to give up the cigaratte addiction. Here is the good news, sort of: Logic has nothing to do with belief. Things don’t have to be logical for anyone to believe them. As a matter of fact, they rarely are. So do not worry about logic!
The format for your negative motivator beliefs will be: “I believe that if I continue to smoke cigarettes, something dreadful will happen to my most highly valued criteria.”
Make sure that you frame your motivators in the positive. In other words, always state what you want or what will happen. Never state what will not happen. Eliminate the “not” word from the beliefs.
In this example we will say that your children’s health and welfare are your most highly valued criteria.
WRONG: “I believe that if I continue to smoke, I won’t be doing my kid’s health any good.”
CORRECT: “I believe that if I continue to smoke, my secondhand smoke will give my children cancer.”
Next, create a list of positive motivators. “I believe that if I stop smoking: (something very important will be enhanced).”
WRONG: “I believe that if I stop smoking, I won’t give my kids cancer.”
CORRECT: “I believe that if I stop smoking, my children will be safer because I’ll eliminate their exposure to the dangers of my secondhand smoke.”
The next step is to modify the computer codes in your brain to make yourself actually believe these new ideas. Now for a bombshell: Your beliefs have nothing to do with real logic. Instead, your beliefs have everything to do with what your perception of reality is. In other words, it has a lot to do with the way that you see things.
Our belief systems are based in our subconscious. The unconscious is like a computer. Computers do not reason. What goes in controls what comes out. To demonstrate, I want you to think of something that you already believe without the slightest bit of doubt. So come up with a belief that makes you feel good.
For instance, it’s easy for most people to believe that they love their children. If that is true for you, make a mental image that makes you experience that feeling of love.
I’m going to ask some questions, and there aren’t any correct or incorrect answers.
Is your mental image a moving picture, or a still?
Is it in color, or in black and white?
Is it close or far?
Is it focused or fuzzy?
Is it normally bright, overly bright, or dim?
Is there a border on it?
Is it borderless?
Is it a panorama?
Whatever your answers are, just write them down. These are the computer codes that your unconscious uses to indicate your feelings of belief. In this case they are the mental codes for positive belief, because you have chosen a belief that gives you a good feeling. You’ve just calibrated your positive belief.
All positive belief pictures are bright and focused. If yours aren’t, you probably do not really have total belief. An element of doubt is probably present. So find another belief to calibrate.
If you think of something that you doubt, and you make a mental picture of it, one or more of these computer codes will probably be different. Similarly, if you have a belief that gives you a negative feeling, (a negative belief): one or more of those codes or submodalities will be different.
In Neuro-Linguistic Programming we call these particular computer codes visual submodalities.
Now you will need to calibrate a negative belief. So repeat the same exact process, but do so using an idea that you already believe, that makes you feel awful.
Once you’ve calibrated your positive and your negative beliefs, it is a simple issue to control what you believe so you can motivate yourself to DECIDE to quit.
So, to summarize, using the above example: “I believe that if I continue to smoke, my secondhand smoke will make my kids sick.”
1. Sense how motivated you feel to stop smoking.
2. Make a mental image that illustrates the above belief.
3. Adjust the computer codes (visual submodalities) of the picture to make them match the computer codes from your calibrated negative belief image.
4. If you are right handed, move your eyeballs (and your mental picture) up to your left and hold it there for five seconds. If you are left handed, go up to the right. This will help you to memorize the belief.
5. Now become aware of how motivated you feel to stop smoking. Do you feel more motivated? Do you feel less motivated? Or are your feelings the same?
By using this method you can make yourself believe almost anything by making a picture in your mind that illustrates your new idea and then adjusting your mental image to match your calibrated belief images.
And if you have a belief that is holding you back, you can use the same technique to change that belief to doubt by changing one or two of the submodalities and memorizing it that way.
Now that you can motivate yourself to DECIDE to quit, you will stop smoking. A DECISION to quit means: I’m quitting no matter how much it hurts. If you are like most people, you will not want it to suffer from withdrawal and you do not have to. Because there are several hypnotic techniques that can greatly reduce, or even completely eliminate the discomforts of withdrawal from the smoking addiction. And you can read about them in my hypnosis article library.
(c) 2007 By Alan B. Densky, CH. This document may be re-printed as long as it is not altered and the author’s name and clickable web address are retained.
Alan B. Densky, CH. offers hypnosis and NLP CD’s for breaking the smoking habit. He is the developer of the Neuro-VISION(r) Video quit smoking hypnosis technology. It received a US Patent due to its uniqueness and effectiveness. He can be contacted through the Neuro-VISION web site.
- Alan B. Densky, CH
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